Real Life Lessons in Puberty from Disney’s "Turning Red"

Mood Swings:

Mood swings are among the most noticeable changes that happen during adolescence. It is important to share with teens and pre-teens that mood swings are normal for everyone during puberty and are a major emotional change. Try using movie scenes to point out the major mood swings the main characters experience during the film and point out that it might feel like a bit of an emotional roller-coaster. Feelings during puberty may start to feel more intense than before, and it is important to discuss what are not considered “normal” emotional changes during puberty. Long periods of sadness or happiness aren’t necessarily normal, even during puberty, and it is important to encourage youth to reach out to a parent or a trusted adult if they think they need help. 

Independence from Parents: 

From first concerts to first parties, independence from parents is another significant change that happens during puberty. This social change can be a true struggle, and at times may feel like an all-out war, like the mother daughter relationship depicted in “Turning Red.” As you watch the movie with your teen, ask questions about how Mei could have responded differently to her mother and father, and ask about what changes in Mei’s relationship with her parents.

There are countless changes that Mei’s family and friends experience during Disney’s “Turning Red,” including changing relationships, peer pressure, and forming your own identity and opinions. All of these changes make great conversation starters about puberty, growing up, and the challenges we all face during adolescence. While this movie provides a great starting point for conversations, remember the conversation shouldn’t end here. Navigating adolescence can be challenging, uncomfortable, and overwhelming, but having open and honest conversations early and often can help prepare you and your pre-teens for the journey ahead!